How many times during your life time have you made a fool of your self? And how many of those times did you think that it´s only you doing those kind of stupid things, nobody else would…? I did exactly that today. No, I will not tell you what I did (you wish). But suddenly I realized some really important things for my life and for my writing.
When I make a fool of my self, I change perspective; from my perspective to the perspective I think the others have. I lose sense of myself, and become the others. I´m in their minds, creating their feelings, their thoughts and sometimes also their actions. “Now, when I did this, she will for sure talk about me in a negative way, and she will hate me forever, and I´m sure she thinks I´m crazy.” This is what we are doing when we make a fool of our selves; we join the others and bully ourselves. Take back your own perspective, and be happy with yourself again.
Why am I telling you this? Because I´m talking about characters in stories. Our lives are stories. You, me, and all the others are its characters. Again, I´m not sure where the boundaries between life making and story telling is. Have you ever seen a characters from one of your stories sit on a bench in real life? It happens, you just know – it´s him! And how many times have the people surrounding you walked into your story to become a part of it, to be its character? Uninvited! It happens all the time.
To know what we are doing to our selves when making a fool of ourselves gives us a perfect chance to do it again, again and again – in our stories. I love when the main character of a story makes an idiot out of herself. The disaster is complete, and as a reader I´m really enjoying time. Then off course, if you realize what you´re doing to yourself you can always get the power to change that, if you would like to. Or even better, make another disaster by making that fool of yourself – and have fun!